The Blessed House: Marriage Matters

God wants your home to be blessed! However, many homes have grown dark because they are in disorder. Order your house, and you will have ordained blessings upon your home. When the pattern is right, the glory falls.

Text: Ephesians 5:22–33 (ESV)

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Four Foundational Truths For A Blessed Home

#1 Before God Fully Fills Something, He First Fully Forms It

“For He [Who is the source of their prophesying] is not a God of confusion and disorder but of peace and order. As [is the practice] in all the churches of the saints (God’s people)” (1 Corinthians 14:33, AMP).

Before God filled the world, He first formed it.

“In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. 2 The earth was without form and void, and darkness was over the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God was hovering over the face of the waters. 3 And God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light. 4 And God saw that the light was good. And God separated the light from the darkness.” Genesis 1:1–4 (ESV).

Order is always the outcome where God’s word is heard and obeyed!

Before God filled the Tabernacle, Moses had to follow the form.

33 And he erected the court around the tabernacle and the altar, and set up the screen of the gate of the court. So Moses finished the work. 34 Then the cloud covered the tent of meeting, and the glory of the Lord filled the tabernacle. 35 And Moses was not able to enter the tent of meeting because the cloud settled on it, and the glory of the Lord filled the tabernacle. Exodus 40:33–35 (ESV)

When the pattern is right the glory falls!

Before the people were filled with the Spirit, the Church had to find its form.

1 When the day of Pentecost arrived, they were all together in one place. 2 And suddenly there came from heaven a sound like a mighty rushing wind, and it filled the entire house where they were sitting. Acts 2:1–2 (ESV)

There is a blessing commanded upon unity and a curse that comes upon disunity.

Where God is, order is the result; where God is absent, disorder is the outcome.

#2 A Disorderly Home Opens a Door to Doom and Darkness

“I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. 4 Every man who prays or prophesies with his head covered dishonors his head, 5 but every wife who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head.”

If God comes where He is honored, what does dishonor bring?

In Creation: Dishonor brought the doom and darkness of sin.
In the Wilderness: Dishonor brought death and destruction.
In the New Testament Church: Dishonor and dishonor brought death.

Where you see disorder you see the consequence of disobedience

Where God’s word is heard and obeyed, order is the outcome; where God’s word is not heard or it is disregarded, disorder is the outcome.

99% of the time your problem is not the devil, its your decisions

#3 A Blessed House is Built According to God’s Blueprint

A Blessed Home is where:

The Lord Is Honored.
The Husband is the Head.
The Wife is the Helper.
The Children are Heirs.

A Godly home is a glory-filled home.

Christ is Honored.

“Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, whose trust is the LORD. 8 He is like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots by the stream, and does not fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit.” Jeremiah 17:7–8 (ESV)

A Christ-honoring home is where each individual has chosen to trust the Lord, the husband and wife have chosen to build their lives upon the Lord, and the family worships the Lord.

The Husband is the Head.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body.

– We lead as Priest & Prophet, not King & Dictator.

– It’s not hard to follow a man who has truly made Christ His king.

– This means your personal relationship with Jesus is paramount (it sets the temperature of your home).

– Husbands are given the leadership example of Christ.

– Leadership is not top-down, but bottom-up.

The Wife is the Helper.

– “Helper fit” (ʿē·zěr ně·ḡěḏ): Helper – Strength; Fit – Complements.

– Not Inferior (underneath the foot).

– Not Independent (above the head).

– Interdependent (from the side).

– Husbands, when we properly cover our wives, we release glory upon them.

– Wives, when you stay undercover, you find the flow of glory.

The Children are our Heirs.

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), 3 “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” 4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. (Ephesians 5:22–6:4.)

– Think DISCIPLESHIP, not DISCIPLINE (Proverbs 22:6).

– Our children become a reflection of what we model (Proverbs 17:6).

– The kingdom is one of Generational Legacy (Proverbs 13:22).

#4 A Glory-Filled Home Is The Building Block Of A Glory-Filled Church

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. (Vs 31-32)

Our homes are the first place we practice the kingdom. 1 Timothy 3:2–5 (ESV)